So I had a conversation with a friend (whose name shall remain anonymous) today about all this stuff that's been waiting to explode in my head...she agrees with me about feeling like we are living in the wrong place at the wrong time..."It would have been great to live in times like in the movies Like Water for Chocolate or Love in the time of Cholera"... when chivalry was a virtue to look up to and try to acquire...would have been great indeed.
Sadly, she's not the only one I've heard this from. Another friend tells me she has to settle for her boyfriend's disrespect ... why? Because he loves her. I'm not even saying that's not true. It may be. Sometimes love is not enough, though. It has to go beyond that...to making sacrifices and actually giving of ourselves for the other...is that too much to ask for? I think not.
People did it before, it can be done now. I know, I know, there are still "gentlemen" out there. My answer? no, there are not. And I know some beautiful couples who lead happy lives, but never have I seen a guy who goes above and beyond with the small details every single time...I know the typical answer I would get here: "well, what about girls? You gals don't know how to be ladies nowadays either" And you would be correct. But why exactly can't we be ladies? we are too busy being what men should be, we are held to the same standard as guys, but still get less for what we do. We are to have a career and make our own money and not fall behind, AND be moms and wives to someone who is supposed to be our equal. Seems a little off to me. I can't be a lady while I'm explaining something to a stubborn client who won't listen and undermines me just because I'm a GIRL. If I were to be a lady, I would be seen as easy pray, in other words, I would be taken advantage of. We don't have the luxury of being ladies, as sad as that sounds, because there are no real gentlemen left.
"Not in this country, anyway", my friend replied....I wish with all my heart that's it. At least that way I can dream that there is still a hint of hope out there.
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